Your children want to have good memories when they are with both parents. If you are going through a divorce, finding ways to make this happen might be challenging. There are several ways that you might encourage your kids to have fun and enjoy the time you spend with them.
One thing that makes it hard to make good memories during the divorce is that the children might harp on the fact that the divorce is still marching forward. Most children will hold out some hope that things will go back to how they were before, so this dark divorce cloud might automatically cover up any semblance of enjoyment.
When you have the children with you, be mindful of what is being said, especially if you are communicating with your ex. Conflicts should never be hashed out in front of the children. Even if you think you are hiding the fact that something is wrong, many children will be able to see through that façade and will notice something is amiss.
It is easy to try to focus on making memories by doing things you wouldn’t normally do. Some parents try to go on extravagant outings to make the children happy. This isn’t necessary. You can make good memories staying home and playing games together or having a movie night. There isn’t anything wrong with going out, but make sure that you do what you can afford and things that aren’t going to cause more stress.
Pay attention to how your children react to specific situations. You might find that some surprises overwhelm them or that trying to do a lot in one day leads to meltdowns. Take these cues and remember them when you plan outings or fun times at home.
Additionally, make sure that if you are planning outings that they are within the scope of what’s allowed in the parenting plan. Sometimes, there are restrictions, including geographical limitations, in the order.